By Ilana Weiler
"Hanna" (not her real name) is a clothing designer who attended an EFT abundance workshop. While we were sharing our emotional blocks to financial abundance, Hanna said that whenever she has an idea about how she could make money, she begins with lots of enthusiasm, creativity, and hope, but when her items don't sell like she had envisioned, she gives up.
I checked her SUD level of intensity about this experience and it was 5 out of 10.
I had us begin tapping:
Even though I always start with enthusiasm, I am always left with so much stuff, I deeply and completely accept myself.
So many things left unsold
Left with boxes
Left with so much stuff
As I noticed a change in her expression, I decided to check how she felt. She said that the discomfort she felt was now higher, and she was at a SUD level of intensity of 8 out of 10.
This indicated to me that a new aspect had come into the picture. I asked her where she felt that in her body. She said it was in her chest.
"Can you describe the feeling?” I asked, as I guided her to use different senses or metaphors. When we release something, the results are always better when we use a variety of senses and metaphors.
Hanna replied, "It feels like a box. It has sharp corners. It is cold, and the color is blue." She offered a great deal of information about this blue box.
I have this blue, cold, sharp-cornered box in my chest, and it feels like a SUD level of 8, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Sharp corners that hurt me
She then said, "Money issues were always a secret at my parents' house. My parents overprotected me."
Things started to evolve, as they always do with EFT, like a rose petal that opens very slowly (or very quickly), and we proceeded tapping.
Even though my parents never discussed money matters with me, it was a secret. They overprotected me. I was kept in a box, and the secret was kept in a box as well, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Kept in a box
Was never discussed
After a few rounds of tapping, Hanna said that she felt relieved, as the box wasn't there anymore. I said, "Let's go back to the fact that money wasn't discussed with you. What else is there?"
She replied, "Money was always considered to be a grownup’s thing, not children's business. My parents used to say, 'You are just a child. Enjoy yourself, have fun. You play now, and when you grow up, then you deal with it.’ They always repeated, ‘The main thing is enjoy yourself and have fun.’"
"How does this affect you now when you articulate this?" I asked. She said, "I remember I used to go to the local grocery store and buy sweets for all my friends, have fun, party, and my parents would pay the bills. I understood nothing about money."
I asked her to repeat the phrase "I understand nothing about money," and I asked, “What do you feel?" She said she had cramps in her lower abdomen at a SUD level of intensity of 5 out of 10.
I wanted to demonstrate the EFT technique of choosing a specific event, even though we were not really dealing with a trauma or a painful memory. It was more an issue of a cognitive and self-image case. But, as I said, it was a demonstration and I wanted to teach some things, so I asked Hanna to see if she could remember a specific event from her childhood connected to our topic.
Nothing came up, so I suggested she close her eyes and see herself as a child in her neighborhood. Hanna could see the street, the local grocery shop, and said it was like a two-dimensional picture—like a postcard.
As I watched Hanna's facial expression change along with the sound of her voice, I decided to ask whether this tapping statement could be true for her:
Even though a part of me just remained there in my childhood, as if it frozen there, I deeply and completely accept myself, with all my segments.
She nodded. "Yes," she said. "I have all these ideas. I want to remain this little girl; creative, a playful child, worry-free, but now I'm an adult and it is I who have to pay the bills–not my parents."
Even though I want to keep all those childish characteristics, I need them all for my creativity and enthusiasm, I also want to recognize the adult part of me, and I deeply and completely accept and respect both my parts.
Even though, I have these two parts in me, I choose to create a bridge between them. I choose to respect the creative enthusiastic part of me and respect and recognize my adult, responsible part. I can be both things at the same time.
Then we tapped, alternating:
I am creative
I am responsible for my money issues
I am enthusiastic
I can handle money issues
I can have both parts functioning at the same time, not having to be a child or an adult
We tapped a few rounds, and when she suddenly had a big beautiful smile and gave me a warm strong hug. We ended the EFT workshop tapping demonstration, which had lasted for about an hour. Hanna said afterward that she experienced a strong sense of unity. She felt light and enthusiastic.
The following morning, Hanna called to thank me.
"I have a little anecdote for you," she said. "A few minutes ago, my mother called asking what I did last night. I told her about your workshop and the EFT technique. She said, ‘Well, as long as you enjoy yourself and have fun.’ I heard the same words I used yesterday—but this time I heard them from a distance—with a smile.”