By J. Morgan-Kidd, LPC
I often get inquiries from people who suffer with very long-term chronic problems. They have been through the traditional medical and psychological help systems and were dissatisfied with the results—obviously so, or they wouldn’t continue to search for help. Although their original problems have specific emotional roots, because of an often very long struggle, I believe they have developed an additional problem.
The problem I’m speaking of is a specific depression related to the long-term battle for relief. And this depression may have to be resolved before they can address their original problem(s).
I think this may be true for some people because I believe I am one of those people! I had a chronic problem for over 10 years. I went from one specialist to another during the earlier years. Perhaps a part of me had made the decision that I could not be cured. Certainly, that was increasingly my experience as the years went by, but I would still continue to try different approaches.
Because of the ever-increasing depression, my thoughts focused more and more on the physical problem. And the more I focused on it, the worse it became. And the worse it became, the more I thought about it.
Indeed, it was hard for me to think of anything else when I wasn’t working.
At the end of the 10th year, I found a doctor who was supposed to be a specialist in just my problem. A very special specialist!
When I went to see him, he told me he had helped every woman who had ever come into his office. I felt some hope again. Three months later, not only was I no better, the problem had become much worse. The only thing I could see in my future was a continued worsening of this problem and I began to have suicidal thoughts.
At the suggestion of a friend, I decided to go to a doctor of naturopathy who gave me some supplements, some hope, and some websites to look at. One of these was Dr. Mercola’s, which had a link to the EFT website.
I began EFT tapping even though I didn’t know what I was doing.
Nothing much happened to my physical symptoms; however, the more I read about EFT and other people’s successes, the more hopeful I felt. I continued tapping on anything I could think of, with no results on the physical symptoms. But after a few weeks, it occurred to me that my mood was better.
I began using EFT with clients and having surprising successes. This was also encouraging. Although my physical symptoms weren’t going away, I no longer focused on it. My mood was stable again.
I think this was key. I had to stop the almost constant negative thoughts about my problem before I could address the original problem. To me, this is a separate problem. As a therapist using EFT regularly several times a day for others, without even knowing it, I was Borrowing Benefits for my attitude toward my own healing! I began to know that I could heal.
Ultimately, I discovered the emotional source of my physical problem and I worked at it steadily for several weeks until it disappeared completely, never to return.
Many of the people who write to me about their chronic symptoms have fear/depression/anxiety about getting over the problem as part of their list. So I began developing tapping setup phrases for some of these clients, addressing the negative view of their own ability to heal.
Even though I may never heal from this, I accept that I’m doing the best that I can.
Even though I have been struggling with this issue for a long time, I’m open to the possibility that I can recover completely.
Even though I haven’t been able to heal from this, I choose to believe the possibility exists.
Even though part of me is comfortable with the familiarity of this feeling, I love myself and all my parts.
Even though I'm afraid to heal, I accept this struggle as part of my healing process.
Even though part of me doesn't want to heal, I’m willing to give up this negative energy.
Even though I'm too helpless to heal myself, I’m not beyond God’s help (the help of the Universe–use your manner of expressing this).
Even though I’m too defective to heal, I choose to heal anyway.
Even though I'm not worthy of healing, I am open to changing my perception of myself.
I received good feedback from many clients that these phrases have meaning for them. They hit home. And once they experienced some relief from the constant worry and fear about overcoming the problems, the problems became smaller and, therefore, were easier to eliminate with EFT.
I hope this may encourage those who still struggle with chronic problems to continue using EFT. Perhaps addressing fears about your ability to heal could be a focus of some extended work. And when this resolves, the rest will be much easier.