By Karolina Żbikowska
”Adriana” is a member of my family. She knows I do this “EFT thing, whatever it is,” looking at me with a kind smile, treating me rather as a not-dangerous freak than as a serious practitioner. Despite that, we have a great relationship. Many times she sees young people leaving my apartment after EFT sessions and she makes no comment. As a future psychologist, she has a pragmatic, down-to-earth attitude about helping others. The unspoken rule with us is that we don’t comment on each other’s opinions or choices, and so we are fine.
One day Adriana came to me totally broken, crying. I didn’t know what had happened. So I made her some tea and she said out of the blue, “I don’t believe that I am actually asking you this, but could you please do some tapping with me on my migraine headaches? This is the fifth day that my head has hurt so much, so that I don’t know what to do. I have been taking paracetamol every day and it simply doesn’t help.”
I knew that she struggled with migraine headaches. Twice a year, they have exams at school, which last two whole weeks. For as long as I can remember, she has struggled with migraines before and after the exams. So I couldn’t believe my happiness that she finally came to me. I promised her that I would do my best.
We started by her describing the pain. It was like a round metal hoop around her head. The intensity was 10 out of 10 and Adriana was crying as she described the pain.
We began tapping on:
Even though I have this enormous migraine headache, I can feel this hoop around my head, I can’t stand it, I am so desperate, but I deeply and completely accept myself.
After saying this three times while tapping on the side of the hand point, we moved through the other points doing the Basic Recipe, including the finger points, while mostly concentrating on the feeling of desperation and pain itself. It took a couple of rounds for the pain to drop from a SUD 10 to a 4. She was surprised that it helped so quickly. Then I decided to do the 9 Gamut technique, with eye roll movements, humming, and counting because those migraines were always with her.
After we finished, she felt so sleepy that she excused herself and went directly to bed.
Adriana came to me again the next day, reporting that this time the pain was behind her eyes but not as intense as yesterday. The SUD level was 7/10.
We started tapping on the pain. After tapping the Full Basic Recipe, I asked her when was the first time she got this headache. She could easily remember the actual event. When she was 5–6 years old, she was playing on a roundabout and felt dizzy. Back at home, she was vomiting and felt this headache for the first time.
We did some tapping on the event. Suddenly, she started crying. I asked what happened.
Adriana said, “What if I have a tumor in my head and I am going to die?” She was afraid to say the statement out loud: Even though I have this tumor… So we started with: Even though I can’t even say that maybe I have a tumor in my head, I love and accept myself. I just can’t say it! I am terrified! If I say it, I might create it! I can’t say such things! I can’t even think of it!
After she calmed herself down, we could address the statement:
Even though I suppose I have a tumor, I love and accept myself.
Her headache was gone. Our two sessions had lasted no longer than 30 minutes each.
Again, Adriana left and went directly to bed.
Over a month later, she sent me a screen shot of her migraine application on her phone, where the application said: It’s been 36 days since your last migraine.
EFT tapping really works!
Last time I visited Adriana’s house, her mom said that she was having those migraines again. I knocked quietly on her bedroom door and then entered her room. She smiled at me and said, “No, I am fine, but everybody needs a break sometimes.” Due to my therapeutic ethics, I kept her secret, of course!