Dear EFT Community,
Maggie Adkins gives an excellent demonstration of how quickly EFT can clear emotional issues and an attendant physical problem, which is especially helpful when a person has an immediate obligation to perform in some way and can't afford to be laid low by an ailment. That was the case with the teacher in this story who had a migraine and didn't know how she was going to be able to teach—until Maggie offered EFT help.
- EFT Universe
By Maggie Adkins
One of my favorite EFT successes with a migraine was at a Performance Anxiety workshop, given by a singing school in southeastern Australia. I was teaching EFT to a group of about 30 people. We were addressing fear of singing, dancing, microphones, and other issues that surround performing in public.
The woman who was going to teach "Stage Presence" arrived late and was in such an agitated state that I left the workshop and went outside to ask her if I could help. She had "one of those migraines," she said, and she didn't know how she was going to teach.
I asked if she would like to try something that couldn't hurt her, and might actually get rid of her headache. I also told her it might be a bit strange to her. She said yes.
I knew a bit about her life as a stage mother and supporter of theater. From costumes and makeup to directing and being a stage mother to many teenagers, this woman was always busy taking care of someone else.
We only had about 25 minutes before she was scheduled to teach, so I just jumped right in, using my intuition and the information I already had about her life. It felt right to proceed in this way with her. It was not a "usual client" situation.
We tapped on:
"Even though I have this head full of everybody else, no room for me. No room for what I want. I don't even know what I want. Head full of things to do. Never enough time. No time for me. Head full of kids. Head full of costume making. Head full of helping, helping, helping, always helping other people. So much to do, so little time."
After only a few minutes, she was laughing at some of these phrases, nodding her head at some, and adamant about others—some of these were right on target and were definitely serious business. While some of what I said was probably not right at all, I knew we were addressing some pertinent issues.
We then tapped on:
"Even though there is no room for me, I gotta make room for me, get rid of some of these people in my head and let myself into my OWN HEAD and MY OWN LIFE. Too many people in MY head. Let them live in their own head for a while. I need me in my head. I'm gonna fill my own head, I'm taking care of MYself now. It is time. It is important. Putting me back in my OWN head. I still love them, but I need me now. And that's okay and all right. Making space in my head for ME. Space in my head, all those things I'm supposed to do are clearing out and making room for ME."
Her relief was obvious. She was laughing a bit more. When we checked in, her intensity was at 2. At that point, she said something that so many say, and it still amazes me. She said something like, "Okay, I feel much better. I can cope with this."
At this point, she started to walk away from me. I gently took her by the arm, turned her toward me, and said, "Do you want to cope or do you want to get rid of it? We can probably just get rid of it, you know."
She looked shocked. That had not occurred to her at all.
We did a couple more minutes of EFT, including:
"Even though I don't know how to nurture ME, maybe it's time to learn. How can I take care of so many others if I'm so depleted? It is a good thing to take care of myself. My head is filling with me right now. Just me in my head. They can take care of themselves for a little while. Time to nurture me. It's my turn."
When I checked back in with her, her headache was totally gone.
I found out later that she was "religious," and what we did probably scared her. But she did get rid of her headache and she was able to teach an excellent session.