Dear EFT Community,
Andrew Lewis takes us setup by setup through the blocks to realizing our potential.
– Will M.
By Andrew Lewis
If you are like almost everyone else in the world, you know you’ve got more potential than you are currently realising.
Wouldn’t it be great if there were a simple way to tap into that potential?
Good news: There is.
It is a simple formula for success (mentioned below) which has been tried, tested and proven by many people throughout the history of the world. Every person who has ever achieved great things in his/her life, as a result of reaching and realising more of his/her potential, has used this formula (whether they were aware of it or not). And it can work for you too.
And here it is:
1. Decision: Know exactly what you want to achieve.
2. Desire: Know exactly why you want to achieve it.
3. Faith: Believe, with all your heart, beyond the shadow of a doubt that you will achieve it.
4. Action: Be willing to do, and then actually do, whatever is required to achieve it.
So, now that you too know this formula, what would you like to create in your life? Perhaps you simply want more peace in your life, or maybe you want a more fulfilling relationship, or a more fulfilling job or career, you might want to be fitter, healthier, wealthier, happier, or there may be things you wish to do, to be, you might like to make a difference in the world or just to be able to be more present and appreciative and grateful right here, right now.
Bad news: It is a simple formula and a simple way to tap your potential, but is not always easy to put into practice.
The reason why it is not always easy to implement this formula, to achieve your goals, is that things get in way. Realising and reaching more of your potential is simple in theory and it would be easy in practice if it wasn’t for all of the blocks which hold us back.
Ironic news: The number one thing that gets in your way, blocks you, and holds you back is you.
I call these blocks and things which get in the way “resistance”. This resistance usually takes the form of doubts, fears, comfort zones, self-sabotage, negative thinking, limiting beliefs, excuses, lack of confidence, lack of determination, lack of focus etc. And to complicate matters further, many of these self limitations operate on an unconscious level, i.e. you are unaware of them.
Good news: As most of this resistance is your own creation, you have the power to change and influence it.
Great news: Using EFT helps to make it easier to tap into your potential by clearing the blocks and resistance.
Fortunately, with EFT we are able to remove the blocks and resistance which get in the way of reaching more of your potential. Even if they operate in the unconscious mind, we are able to get to the cause and clear it at a deep level. EFT can clear doubts, fears, comfort zones, self-sabotage, negative thinking, limiting beliefs, excuses, lack of confidence, lack of determination, lack of focus and much more.
Regardless of what it is that you want to be, do or have,and regardless of where you are in your life right now, and regardless of your looks, age, race, gender, occupation, religion, culture, previous experience, success or failures, this formula can help you to make it a reality, and EFT can help clear any resistance and blocks which get in the way.
Below I take you through a 15 step process on how to apply this formula in your life. (a mini look at the process I teach in the workshop “Tapping your potential with EFT.”)
Some people call this the “Activating Law of Attraction”, “Becoming a conscious creator”, “Raising your Vibration”, “Getting into Alignment” or “Vibrational Resonance” with your goals, I call it “Tapping into Your Potential”.
Here are the steps to tapping into your full potential with EFT which the workshop is based upon: (please note that the steps take several hours to go through and as such this is only a brief outline with minimal explanations)
1. Know that it is possible
Having the belief that anything is possible (or at least the belief that that which you wish to create is possible) and believing that you can create the life that you want to is fundamental to reaching your goals, or creating the life you want to, or reaching more of your true potential.
Becoming a possibilist (not an optimist or a pessimist but a possibilist) is the first essential step in the formula, and is often where the tapping begins. Many people lack the self-belief, self-confidence, or faith in themselves that is required to be, do and have what they want.
As you can imagine, if you wish to reach which your potential, you must first have faith in your ability to do so. EFT is excellent for addressing any doubt, uncertainty, lack of self belief, scepticism, and even can clear the events and episodes which created these self-limiting beliefs in the first place.
“Even though I may have limited myself in the past, I love and accept myself exactly as I am, and I forgive myself because I was doing the best knew how, and I open myself up to new possibilities.
Even though I don’t really know what is possible for me, I open myself up to realising that anything is possible, including what I really want and really love.
2. Decide what you want
In order to go somewhere, in order to go anywhere, even if you just want to go from the lounge-room to the kitchen, you need to determine your destination, i.e. decide where you want to go. In order to reach a goal you first need to set your sights on that goal. i.e. decide what you want to achieve. Some people have trouble with goal setting, for various reasons. EFT can help with goal setting by providing mental and emotional clarity and it can also help you get clear on what goal you want and why you want it.
Even though I don’t know exactly what I want, therefore I can’t make a decision, I decide now to have clarity and focus anyway, and to become more aware of what is right for me.
Even though I don’t really want to decide on any one thing because making a decision means limiting your options, I accept how I feel, and I choose to allow myself to choose and by choosing have this increase my opportunities.
3. Determine where you are now
If you go to googlemaps and type in your destination (where you are going), in order to give you directions, you also need to type in your point of departure (where you are leaving from). The destination is not enough. You can not know which route to take unless you know where you are now. In fact, that is the reason why if you are in a huge shopping centre and you look at one of the maps of the centre on a sign you will notice that there is always an arrow which says “you are here”. This is because you need to know where you are now in order to make any sense of the map.
Before reaching any goal it is important to identify where you are now in relation to that goal – if for no other reason than to determine what your next step, or action, needs to be to move you towards that goal.
Using EFT regarding where you are now in relation to your goal is often very interesting. Sometimes people do not want to admit where they are now in relation to their goal because it can make them realise how far they are away from it. And in other cases there are people who do not want to admit where they are now in relation to their goal because it can make them realise how close they are to it. EFT can help clear any issues around where you are in relation to your goal and any related thoughts or feelings.
Even though where I am right now seems so far from where I want to be, I accept that I am, here and now, and allow myself to appreciate here and now as I take gradual steps in the direction of my goal, knowing that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
4. Get leverage / Make it a must to change
These two questions can help provide leverage or motivation to move towards and take action towards your goals:
What would happen if you did not reach your goal and what effect would it have on you and others?
What will happen when you reach your goal and how will this positively affect you and others?
The first of the two questions may bring up some resistance, negative emotions, and uncomfortable feelings which can help increase your motivation to change. And EFT is excellent for clearing any counter intentions which may come up when doing this. The second of the two questions will probably help you access positive emotions and feelings associated with changing and these can be augmented with EFT thus providing further motivation.
Even though if I don’t reach my goal there could be negative consequences, I choose to focus on the positive benefits that will come when I do reach my goal and allow these feelings to inspire me, and feel good right now just thinking about them now, confidently knowing that I can and choose to make it happen.
5. Uncover blocks, resistance, limitations
There are many things which can get in the way of reaching your full potential or reaching your goals. The most significant obstacles or blocks are not those which occur in the outside world such as a flat tyre, bad weather, the economy, your housing burning down, but rather are the internal obstacles or blocks such as doubts, fears or excuses, which ultimately determine how well we do in any endeavour, or even in life itself.
Using EFT to uncover and identify these internal, sometimes unconscious, blocks and resistance often results in “aha” moments as people find out things about themselves that they hadn’t previously known or even imagined. They find out what has held them back in the past, they find out the underlying causes which explain why they had never quite made it, why they got so far and then sabotaged their own success, in whatever area of life they were focussing on. Once you are aware of the old patterns, blocks, resistance you are able to clear them. see step 6)
Even though I don’t know why I can’t reach my goal, all I know is that I have tried and failed, I must have some kind of a block, I accept how I feel and I accept who I am totally, deeply and completely and I allow any additional awareness and insight about this block to become more clear now.
6. Remove the blocks
There is no better tool than EFT tapping for clearing and resolving resistance in all of its various forms: unconscious blocks, limiting beliefs, self sabotage, comfort zones, or anything that can get in the way of reaching your goals or your full potential.
Not only does EFT reduce the negative feelings and emotions which can stop you in your tracks but it also works on resolving the causes, the original memories and experiences or “traumas”, where the self-doubt, or limiting beliefs come from.
Even though I have fear of failure because last time I failed I felt humiliated and I don’t want to feel that again, I love and accept and forgive myself, and by tapping those old fears and hurts have healed, so that was then and this is now and this time is different because I have changed.
7. Get clear on why you want what you want (what’s most important to you?)
Step 4. above called “Get Leverage” is about using both positive and negative motivation in your favour. And motivation is an important part of action, it is what compels us to do anything. However, whilst motivation always works in the short term, in order to have long-term motivation and determination, you need inspiration. This inspiration comes from identifying the reasons why you want what you want. It is the “Why’s” more than the “What’s” which will ultimately determine your direction in life and the actions you take.
In finding out why you want what you want, it is important to tune into and become aware of what is most important to you in your life, that which you truly value.
Even though I thought I wanted that goal for that reason, I have just realised what it is all about and I am grateful for this new information and learning this has provided me with and how this can help me, and I love know why this is so important for me and others.
8. Create goals that inspire you and that you truly in alignment with
Once you have identified what is most important to you in your life, i.e. what your values are, it is key to make sure that any goals which you have in your life are in alignment with those values.
Effective goal setting is an extremely effective way of reaching more of your potential. It helps to stretch you and inspires you to grow. However, in order for the goal setting to be truly effective, the goals must be in alignment with your values. The congruence and integrity which comes from aligning your ever-so-strongly-desired-goals with your highest values provides enormous amounts of energy and inspiration which we than tap into even further with EFT.
There was an initial goal setting in step 2. “Decide what you want”, but this is the goal setting exercise which really makes the difference.
I have this great goal which is firing a passion within me and inspiring me, and I love and accept who I am and how I feel. This feels so good to be totally aligned with who I am and what I stand for and I feel more whole, powerful, integrated and harmonious and can reach more of my potential in this way.
9. Tools for manifesting
There are many tools for manifesting such as visualisation, affirmations, incantations, and gratitude exercises. We tap into some of these other powerful tools during the workshop and especially tap into the incredible power of gratitude and appreciation.
I am so grateful for all the blessings in my life, I appreciate all of my skills, gifts, talents and abilities, I love being able to see all of the beautiful things in my world, I adore being able to use my creative imagination for my and others’ good.
They say that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Well, there’s a lot to be said both for and against planning and there is definitely a time and a place for planning and a time and a place for not planning. EFT can be used to clear any resistance as we work out an effective way to plan.
Even though I wasn’t all that keen on having a plan before I did it, I love and honour and respect myself and am glad that I have clearly set down a map for myself as it provides direction, focus and clarity for me.
11. Taking action
The Law of Attraction states that when you are able to get into vibrational resonance with your goal, then the goal appears. I personally believe this to be true. But, be aware not to fall into the trap of thinking that you can get into vibrational resonance without taking any action. Getting into vibrational resonance with your goals consists of deciding what you want, believing that you can achieve it, visualising it, desiring it, feeling good and grateful for its coming into being, planning, taking action, and, of course, clearing any blocks with EFT along the way. Remember that the last six letters in the word attraction are a-c-t-i-o-n. EFT tapping can help you get clear on taking action, and what action to take.
Even though it was all fine to talk and visualise and affirm and imagine my goals but when it comes actually taking action I feel all this resistance come up, I acknowledge how I feel, and honour, respect and accept how I feel whilst letting go of any resistance, or limiting feelings or thoughts which could hold me back. And even if I feel a little discomfort as I take the action I intended to, I recognise it for what it is – stretching out of old comfort zones, I love knowing I am creating more space for myself as I move forward and out of old uncomfortable zones into new areas in the palace of possibilities.
12. The mindset of a successful person
You can reach more of your potential simply by learning from people who have reached more of their potential and adopting a similar attitude and, if appropriate, modelling their mindset.
This process of learning and modelling others’ ways is very powerful but it can sometimes uncovers issues or aspects which are tap-able and can be easily addressed with EFT.
Even though I’m no Nelson Mandela nor am I Mahatma Gandhi, nor Martin Luther King, I wish to be inspired by them and just imagining what their thoughts were enables me to change my way of thinking too and to gratefully and humbly stand on the shoulders of those giants.
13. Keep yourself in good condition mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually
You can not possibly reach your full potential unless you are in optimal condition mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The benefits of taking good care of yourself are so obvious that it should not even need a mention. But the fact is that so many of us neglect to take care of ourselves on one or more of these levels.
Whether it is a healthy diet, exercise, finding time to meditate, continuously learning and maintaining an active mind, remembering to tap when you need to, feeling gratitude and appreciation for your blessings, sometimes we get in our own way in doing what’s best for us. EFT can be an effective way of clearing these blocks.
Even though in the past I have neglected to take really good care of myself because I didn’t find the time, I determine and commit to looking after myself and this is because I love myself, I like myself, and I am worthy and deserving of the best in life including, health, happiness, abundance and wealth and peace, love, joy, gratitude and vitality, so I decide to do my part in creating the internal and external environment in my mind, body, energy system, life and world and life abounds as I thrive and get better and better every day in every way.
14. Get coaching, Keep learning and growing
A good coach does so much more than just help you identify a strategy for your success and hold you accountable to your actions. An effective coach, using effective tools, can enable you to get clear on what you want, identify where you are now in relation to what you want, determine how to get from where you are to where you want to be, and also assist in working through the blocks, obstacles and resistance that lie along the path of getting what you want and becoming the way you want to be.
A good coach can help you see and find the resources within yourself that you have been unable to find within yourself and help you reach more of that untapped potential.
Even though you can’t do it all on your own and sometimes you need others to help, I am lucky because our purpose in this world is to work together, help one another, and to contribute and this is a matter of give and take, so I allow others to help me and I appreciate their help gratefully, and I appreciate being able to help others and appreciate their gratitude.
15. Calling in the heavy artillery 🙂
By heavy artillery I mean faith. And no, I am not necessarily talking about religious faith here. The best dictionary definition that sums up what I mean is: “Complete trust, belief or confidence in someone or something.”
There is so much power in having complete trust, belief, confidence and faith in yourself, in your own ability, and also in something more than just yourself, that it makes good sense to tap into this power.
Thank you universe for healing this old programming. Thank you source energy for the inspiration and guidance you provide, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you, I am so grateful now that I know with all my heart that this will be okay.