By Gloria Arenson, MFT
There is no right or wrong way to use EFT. You will find that tapping can eliminate the urge to put things off.
You can tap when you realize you are using the excuse to go shopping instead of working on a project or returning a phone call. When you have a headache or an upset stomach, you most likely will reach for an aspiring or antacid to relieve the symptom. With EFT, you don't have to wait until you feel the urge to procrastinate. You can treat your compulsion to put something off simply by thinking about how you usually put this off, the last time you put something off, excuses for putting this off, or about the situation in general.
Addressing your issue can be done with one or two rounds of EFT tapping, lasting for a few minutes or longer. When you want to eliminate negative emotions like fear, anxiety, and anger about a specific incident, one tapping session may resolve it. You may feel relief after one session after just one or two rounds of tapping on a specific issue.
Complicated issues may bring up memories or new anxieties and may take longer to resolve with EFT.
Sometimes you may tap a few times a day to tap daily for a week or more. If you are not noticing change after two weeks of tapping, you might want to consult with a psychotherapist or EFT practitioner in your area to help you move past your block.
You will find that you have better results with EFT when you pick a specific aspect of your problem.
Start with 1 of these 5 tips:
1. Tap whenever you find yourself procrastinating.
2. Tap when you fell you are angry with yourself because you feel you are not doing what you should be doing.
3. Tap when you feel guilt or shame about the results of neglecting something you should be doing or changing.
4. Tap when you feel anger towards those who are demanding that you complete a task or do something for them.
5. Tap when you recall memories of the negative consequences you have endured when you have put things off.
EFT Setup Statements help and can be short and simple. Here are 4:
Even though I can't seem to control my [behavior] around this situation, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I did [name your avoidance behavior] instead of [what you should have been doing], I am doing my best to stop this behavior as I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I got angry with [name person] for asking me about [name what you were supposed to get done], I am a good person and I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I have myself to blame for [name what you avoided and the consequence] I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Creating a narritive or story EFT Setup Statement in which you explain more about the situation and talk out loud to yourself can be beneficial in bringing closure to the issue, much like writing it down. Use your own words for the best effect. Remember that you cna say anything that you want and even swear if it is fitting since no one but you will be listening.
Remember to tap your Karate Chop Point as you say your EFT Setup Statements three times.
You can use EFT in the car while you commute, at night before you drift off to sleep, in the shower as you get ready for your day... even in the bathroom at someone's home when you need a moment to be alone and regroup. Try EFT whenever you feel youself losing control of a situation.