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The Role of Acceptance in EFT

The Role of Acceptance in EFT

By Sudesh Shetty

EFT can be beautifully used for creating acceptance of everything in your life. Before working on any issue, be it a phobia, relationship, self-esteem, health, or memory improvement, use EFT to first acknowledge and accept the issue or problem. Whatever situation you may find yourself in your life, accept it completely and unconditionally. When you don’t accept it, you energize that problem more and more. This happens due to the energy of resistance.

Non-acceptance leads to resistance and resistance is a powerful form of energy. When you resist, you put energy toward those resistant thoughts and feelings and you are not aware how you are applying the law of attraction into creating more of what you don’t want. At the same time, you create a strong parallel current of conflicting, debilitating energy in your body and your system starts being affected badly. Every time you resist, your problem is energized more and your body is traumatized due to the powerful conflicting current of resistance energy and this can show up as pain, hot flashes, migraine, itching, etc.

For example, a lot of diabetic people do not accept that they have a problem and hate or condemn the restrictions in their diets or taking medication for the ailment. Needless to say, the sugar level may increase and the problem can be aggravated. Use EFT to create acceptance of this problem by saying:

I completely love and accept my blood sugar level as it is, I completely accept the blood sugar reading in my medical test report, I completely love and accept my pancreas as it is. I completely love and approve of myself.

The most common thing that we resist in our present lives is “the way it is.” We are living with the dream of everything becoming rosier some day in a distant future–that is what keeps us going. After a point of time, we become frustrated and embittered waiting and hoping for that day, that perfect moment to come. Start with acceptance of your current life. Tap and say:

I completely accept my current life in the now, I accept all the situations in my life, I am at peace and harmony with my health the way it is. I totally love and approve of myself in this present moment.

Allow any feelings (for example, fear) to come and to be. Do not shun the feelings or condemn them, let them grip you, do not fight it. Remember you have been fighting this resistance for years and it has persisted or camouflaged itself. Similarly, allow any emotion when it comes up to grip you if it does, accept that miserable discomfort you feel and that yearning to escape it. Accept and bless the feeling with love. When it comes to you and your mind, being gentle and effortless is the way to go. Here are some other examples: If you are working on a relationship issue, try this EFT Setup Statement:

I completely love and accept my relationship with Sue the way it is. I completely accept Sue the way she is. I completely accept that Sue called me a loser yesterday. I accept my anger toward Sue, I love and accept myself with this anger.

I completely love and accept the dandruff on my scalp. I completely love and accept my scalp the way it is. I now bless my scalp and hair with unconditional love.

If you are feeling sensations that you find irritating or painful, then tap:

I completely accept this sensation on my scalp/stomach/knees/etc. I totally love and accept this sensation the way it is.

This will reduce your pain or discomfort immediately because you are releasing resistance.

You may have been holding onto a resistance for a long time or have a fear that you cannot come to terms with. For example, you may resist going into public places because of your fear. You may then want to start by tapping:

I am willing to release the resistance in accepting this fear of going to public places. I am willing to release all resistance. I am willing to accept myself just the way I am.

Then progress slowly to I choose to release, I choose to accept myself statements.

Taking a week or a month to only love and accept yourself and your issues will begin to make a difference. You haven’t been accepting yourself and your issues for years; let it take time now if it does. Tapping will enable you to accept gently and make that shift in energy.

Even if some thought or feeling is haunting you again and again, even after accepting it or doing a round of EFT, it is okay; don’t get perturbed. Accept the haunting thought and feeling, accept that you are feeling agitated with the recurring thought:

Okay, I accept this thought or feeling completely. I bless this thought or feeling with love, I accept my non-acceptance of this thought and feeling.

The moment you release the resistance and start accepting, you will find that it becomes easier to tap your issues away. Happy Healing!