Dear EFT Community,
EFT Master Maggie Adkins shares how she handled the situation when a workshop attendee who volunteered for the EFT demonstration began shaking uncontrollably when they started tapping. Maggie used the Constricted Breathing Technique and the shaking, which the client had experienced many times before and which usually lasted from 3 hours to a few days, subsided after three rounds of tapping.
- EFT Universe
By Maggie Adkins, Master EFT Practitioner
In my EFT Workshops, I define phobia, for the sake of the demonstration, as a fear that has no basis in a person's actual physical experience. Part of my definition of phobia is that you have no idea of why you have the fear or terror.
At this particular EFT workshop demonstration, several people volunteered. "Nancy" said she had a fear of heights. I asked a second time if anyone's fear had any experiential basis. I made it clear that if they had any actual experiences that might have resulted in this fear, in my definition, that is not a phobia.
Everyone, including Nancy, said no.
We went through one complete round with everyone tapping on their particular phobia. As I was asking for people to check their intensity levels, Nancy fell to the floor, her arms and legs shaking more and more with each passing second.
This is the part I'm not sure I should own in public. However, I must admit that my first thought was "She is ruining my demonstration."
I immediately came to my senses, fell to my knees beside her, and asked, "Has this ever happened before?" She said it had happened many times before.
I then asked her if she had any idea why she was shaking. She told me that when she did the tapping it brought up all the times her mother had thrown her down the stairs as a child. I would never have worked on an issue like this in a short group demonstration! But there we were.
I asked her how long it usually took for the shaking to stop. She told me it took anywhere from 3 hours to a few days.
I suggested that the rest of the group have their tea and cookies and that Nancy and I go off to a private room.
Once in a private setting, I realized I had no idea what to do. I remembered being told, "If you don't know what else to do, do Constricted Breathing."
I asked her if I could tap for her because she was shaking so badly she would not have been able to tap on herself.
She nodded her head yes, and I picked up her hand, began tapping the Karate Chop point and asked her to repeat what I said:
"Even though I have this constricted breathing, I deeply and profoundly accept myself."
To tell you the truth, I felt a bit like God's fool because I had no idea whether this would work. This is where I remembered to trust your intuition and be willing to be God's fool, and I just kept tapping. Constricted Breathing is the only thing that came to my awareness and I trusted it.
I tapped on each point, saying, "Constricted breathing," suggesting she take nice deep breaths—no force, just easy and as deep as she could. I made the sound of release, "Ahhhh," as I was tapping. On each point, I said, "Constricted breathing."
Stopping the shaking was all I cared about in the moment, so an intensity meter was not necessary. Success would be obvious.
After just one round, the shaking subsided. Within 3 rounds, it was totally gone. I don't know who was more relieved, Nancy or me.
Obviously this was not the first time she had experienced the shaking. However, it was the first time it had stopped before several hours or even a few days. We had only tapped for about 12 minutes.
After the shaking stopped, I knew we weren't finished. I asked Nancy if she was afraid the shaking would come back. Her response was a huge up and down nod of her head and an emphatic yes.
This time we used the intensity meter. I asked her if it was a 10 and I think she said it was more like 10,000.
Starting with the Karate Chop point, and this time with Nancy tapping on herself, we began with:
"Even though I have this fear—this terror—the shaking will come back, I deeply and completely accept myself."
We went through all the points saying, "Afraid it will come back," and sometimes saying, "Terrified that shaking will come back." We tapped on that until it was a 0, which actually took longer than it took for the original shaking to stop.
I feel that no matter what kind of issue a client has, it is always wise to ask if they have a fear the issue or pain or situation will come back. My experience of this has been very powerful and very important.