Dear EFT Community,
Sandy Miniere shares how through EFT tapping and dealing with energy blocks she was able to help a 30-year-old client free herself from a deeply rooted belief disallowing sexual pleasure.
– EFT Universe
By Sandy Miniere
I have been in private practice for many years as a mind/body intuitive (a label my clients use) and professional counselor.
Once I anchor a client into their physical body energetically, the body and soul speak to me. In the therapy session, I help them move through the energy blocks underlying emotional and physical symptoms with focusing and breathing. I call this an “energy clear out.”
However, this approach lacked something. Considering the depths we were reaching in the session with the subtle energy, permanent change was not happening fast enough for me.
I was searching for a tool that would involve the physical body more directly in the healing process. I believe Energy Psychology is the magic bullet I have been seeking. I am using it on myself with great success as well.
EFT in combination with TAT is working wonders with my clients because:
1. EFT is a tool that clients take with them. It puts success in their own hands where it belongs. Once they have been tapping for a while, it is easier for me to help them release unconscious complexes, habitual core patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. When working with a client at these depths, I feel as though I am pulling a thick energy substance from their bones.
2. EFT is a technique that forces the client to get anchored in the body. The people I see are loosely connected to their bodies and have difficulty being present in the moment. For this reason, I hope the ultimate energy healing technique will not rely solely on the mind and bypass touching the body.
3. Much emphasis is being placed on where to tap for success. In my work, I find that a core issue being uncovered may lead to a miraculous outcome. After tapping for several rounds on surface symptoms or issues, I often discover the core issue lurking beneath the symptoms. When this happens, the client and I feel like we have been hit with a thunderbolt. The BZZZZZ jumps out at us.
This leads to a success story I would like to share. Uncovering a core religious complex I labeled “The sins of Eve,” I was able to help a 30-year-old female client free herself from a deeply rooted sexual inhibition.
Since adolescence, she’d had difficulty enjoying sex. She was now in her first year of marriage struggling to achieve emotional and sexual intimacy with her husband. We worked on this problem for several months before the wedding and took it up again recently in therapy.
Before using Energy Psychology techniques, I tried everything I knew: traditional approaches, Ericksonian hypnosis, body energetics, etc.
We uncovered her personal and family sexual history, early traumatic events, and obstacles to intimacy as well as reduced her feelings of shame and guilt. Her personal history did not match up to the pervasiveness and intensity of the symptoms. Although we were making progress, I was hoping to help her achieve the sexual ecstasy she deserved to experience with a loving mate. Persistence did pay off.
Three months of tapping for a variety of issues including intimacy and sexuality led to the following:
The session before the breakthrough, I did TAT with her for sexual shame and tapped with EFT for “fear of sexual pleasure.” At the beginning of this session, I arm tested [muscle tested] her for “I want to experience sexual pleasure.” She was reversed; however, at the end of the session she tested strong on that statement.
At the beginning of the breakthrough session she reported being taken out of a sexual mood by some tangible circumstances. As we began tapping on other aspects associated with sexual pleasure, her identification with Eve as the temptress who seduced Adam and sent all of their children into a world of pain and suffering struck me.
When I mentioned it out loud, we were catapulted into another realm. (I believe this came to me because I learned on my healing journey that at the age of 7 I believed my sins killed Jesus Christ. I acquired this belief from a nun in catechism class.) It appears that when my client tried to become a sexual woman and merge with a man, she identified with all the terrible things that were said about Eve under the auspices of Catholic doctrine. It appears as though she took on Eve’s sin and guilt. The Kahunas of ancient Hawaii believed that religious complexes create havoc in an individual’s psyche, body, and life.
We tapped for “The sins of Eve.”
At the follow-up session, she reported having great sex and felt herself getting emotionally closer to her husband. We then tapped for tooth and jaw pain as well as anger at her father, which was revealed in a dream.
Two weeks later, she reported with a big grin, “I can’t believe sex can be like this. I feel sexually and emotionally connected to my husband.”
A month after the breakthrough session, she is enjoying emotional and sexual intimacy with her husband.
