Painful sex is resolved for a young woman when a conexion is made to feeling invaded when her mother's new boyfriend was invited to live with them when she was a little girl. Roland Bérard shows in this article how investigating further even when the issue seems resolved, brings new information to the surface and reveals the core issue. This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. and visit Roland's website.

 


 

By Roland Bérard

Shelly (not her real name) came to see me because she had been experiencing pain during sex for quite some time without knowing where this came from.  When I asked her at which moment she felt the pain, she said that it was at the moment of penetration.

I asked Shelly “if there was an emotion to describe what you feel, what would it be?”  She replied: “Anger”, with an intensity level of 5 on a scale of 0-10.  She knew the anger was not directed at her boyfriend, but she could not figure out what triggered it.

We did a couple of rounds of tapping using the set-up phrase:

“Even though I feel anger during penetration, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

After this, I asked Shelly to imagine again the moment of penetration and report what was present.  She said: “Now I feel joy rather than pain.”

We could have stopped there because the level of anger was down to zero and it had been replaced by joy.  However, my intuition led me to explore a little further and so I said to her:

“You know, when I think about penetration, what comes up is something having to do with being invaded…”

To which she immediately replied:

“Oh!  I know where that comes from!  My father died when I was 2 ½ years old and I was raised by my mother.  When I was 8 years, old I came home from Bible Camp only to find that my mother had invited her boyfriend to live with us.  I had not been consulted at all, and at eight years old, there was nothing I could do about it!”

So we continued to tap:

Even though I feel resentment at having been invaded in this way…

Even though I feel angry…

Even though I was not told this was going to happen…

Even though as a little girl, there was nothing I could do or say…

Even though I lost a lot of the attention I used to get from my mother…

Even though I was invaded…

Even though this was not fair…

By then, the feeling of having been invaded went down to zero.

I wished Shelley a “fun” evening and asked her to let me know how it went.  This was her response a few days later:

“We did have a wonderful night, and a few more after that! There was no pain the first night, and a little bit the next night, but I just kept tapping and it got better! Hee, hee.  My boyfriend sends his thanks as well! Lol.

I have done the tapping a few more times since, and am meditating on releasing the old thought patterns. My energy feels much lighter and more open. My periods have now gotten better, with less cramping, although they did get more intense for some time after we met.

And also, I have taken my Level 1 E.F.T and am registered to take 2 and 3 in February and March. Thank you so much for the inspiration, I think I have found a very profound healing tool to use on myself and eventually on my clients. I have been tapping away at my issues with my stepfather, and am happy to say that this was the best Christmas I can remember having in a very long time. We did not fight or even argue, in fact we had a very in depth conversation about the energy shift that is happening in the world right now! Normally I can hardly bear to speak to him about the weather!

I truly believe that my angels guided me to you, to help me along my journey, and point me in the right direction : ) Thanks so much for helping me; you truly gave me a lot of realization!”

Thank you Shelley for sharing this with us!

Roland Bérard

EFT Practitioner, Montréal, Canada

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