By Roushan Martens
When it comes to using EFT for weight-related issues I have EFT clients recall comments made to them about their body, weight, and food. We then tap together about the comments.
For example, if someone has been told in their past that they’re ‘fat and ugly’, we would use the EFT tapping Setup Statement:
Even though this person told me I’m fat and ugly, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Then we’d tap around the points, using ‘fat and ugly’ phrase as the reminder phrase.
We follow this with tapping around the points (no Setup Statement), whilst the person ‘replies’ to this comment.
For example, the person might say things like:
How dare you say that! …
Who do you think you are? …
You’re not so great looking yourself!
This has proven to be a very cathartic process for a lot of people, and really helps remove the intensity of their hurt at the comment.
My client, “Janet” recalled one comment from her mother: “You look like the back of a bus. Have a piece of cake.”
We tapped, using the comment as the reminder phrase, which took the intensity around this comment from a SUD Level of Intensity of 10 on a scale of 10 to an 8 out of 10.
For the second round, I asked Janet what she might like to reply to this comment, but she couldn’t come up with anything.
I made a couple of suggestions of my own, at each point checking them out with Janet, who nodded at each one:
That really hurt …
Why would you say that? …
That was mean.
We repeated each phrase loudly, one for each tapping point, as we tapped. At the end of the round, I asked Janet where her SUD Level of Intensity was, and she said that now it just ‘felt ridiculous’ – the intensity was gone. She said that it was really nice to have these suggestions, as her mother was quite a scary person, and she couldn’t imagine saying any of those things to her herself.
Quite often our negative body self-talk stems from other people in our past who said unimaginable things to us, which we internalize and take on when they aren’t true. EFT can help you remember where you picked up the negative body talk and assist you in clearing the memory so that you practice kinder and more gentle self talk moving forward.