By Dawson Church, PhD, EFT TRN-3
Core issues behind weight gain and cravings are often clever about hiding, so being a good detective is an EFT asset. Finding them can be as simple as asking yourself some questions.
8 Questions to Ask Why You're Gaining Weight:
- What does this craving remind me of?
- When was the first time in my life that I felt this way? And what was happening in my life at the time?
- Is there a deeper emotion underlying this situation, what might it be?
- Who or what is behind my weight gain?
- If I could live my life over again, what person or event would I prefer to skip?
- If there was a consequence for losing weight, what would it be?
- If there were a benefit for keeping the weight, what would it be?
- How do I feel just before I get the munchies (or the food I don't want to be eating anymore)? Exhausted? Stressed? Frustrated? Sad? Empty? Angry? Insecure? Overwhelmed? Alone? Disappointed? Excited? Happy? Anxious? Nervous?
Once you have an answer to any of these questions, continue asking yourself, "Why?" or "What's behind this?" until you find an unresolved specific past events.
If you can't think of any specific past events, you can try a few rounds of EFT tapping on something global like, "I'm just feeling uncomfortable" to remove a few emotional layers and see if any specific events pop into your mind.
You can tap:
Even though I have this weight issue and I don't know what is causing it, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This weight issue.
Whatever is causing my weight issue.
You can tap:
Even though this particular food makes me feel [better, calmer, happier, relaxed, loved...] and I don't understand why, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This emotional cause.
I'm not even hungry.
If you are still not able to come up with an event , memory, or connection, no problem. Just use whatever comes to mind. You could even make up a story. I often say that a made-up story example can work as well as focusing on an actual past event or memory.
If I had to imagine an event that could contribute to my weight problem , it would go something like this... (then use whatever event story you create).
As soon as you have something, real or imaginary, that's connected in any way to the food you keep craving and can't resist, or to your weight gain, create an EFT Setup Phrase around it and begin tapping.
Specific events are the building blocks underneath the bigger global issues. By dealing with them one at a time, they are easier to manage, and you can monitor your progress along the way. In addition, by going all the way to the core of the issue, you can start releasing the building blocks one by one that contributed to the global issue, until it collapses.
Two Points Deserve Special Attention:
1. There can be hundreds of specific event underlying a larger issue and thus, theoretically, addressing all of them can be a tedious process.
Fortunately, you do not have to address every specific event to collapse the larger issue. You can usually do the job by collapsing somewhere between 5 and 20 of its "table legs". This is because there is usually a commonality or "general theme" among the specific events. After EFT appropriately collapses a few of the "table legs," a generalization effect occurs the serves to collapse the rest of the events.
2. Remember that each specific event is likely to have an assortment of aspects, so address them separately and measure your progress on them one by one.
Aspects can be the different emotions you felt during an event, the various emotional crescendos, or anything else that you would consider to be a "part" of your reaction to the event. The smell of the food, the taste in your mouth, the sounds in the background, the temperature of the room, the lighting or time of day, the shock of the event, the guilt and shame over feeling responsible, and so on. Each of these pieces is an aspect all by itself and should be addressed separately.
To be as thorough as possible with any specific food or craving-related event, use the Tell-the-Story Technique until you can tell the complete story without any emotional spikes.
Excerpted from the book, EFT for Weight Loss
By Dawson Church, PhD
Pages 171 -175