Remember you are only there to help reduce excess emotional activation if needed, not to provide a therapy session. It is usually sufficient to pull someone aside or to the back of the room if necessary. (If you take someone into another room, it can give a message that you’re planning to give them an extended amount of time.) As you ask the person what’s bothering them, start tapping the points on yourself and indicate they should tap on themselves as they talk to you, just have them talk and tap. This is often all that’s needed to help someone calm down along with respectful, caring, quality attention.
If someone is getting too activated by talking about very disturbing material in their practice sessions, talk them through the “Tearless Trauma” technique so they can consider this option during their subsequent practice sessions. If this is the case, it also makes sense to explain it to their practice partners.
Remind people of self help tools they can use to stay calm during the workshop and you can demonstrate and practice with them:
a. Tapping or squeezing the finger points
b. Tapping around the face and body on all the EFT acupoints
c. Identifying one point or two that seem particularly helpful for them, often collarbone or karate chop points
d. Continuous tapping in general
During practice sessions, please help add a chair to each practice group facing in the direction so the Trainer or assistant could see the rest of the room.
When you go around to check on twos and threes during practice sessions, please position yourself so you can still see the rest of the room. (Don’t have your back to the room). Keep an eye on the other groups to see if anyone needs assistance.
Please notice if any groups of two or three during an exercise seem to be talking a lot and not tapping. Check on them and help them focus in on what to tap on so they don’t use up all their practice time talking and they get to practice the EFT protocols.
Please make sure everyone is tapping the correct points in the correct sequence and following the protocol. The most common mistake is for people to continue to use the set-up phrase at each point instead of switching to the reminder phrase after the karate chop point.
The other most common mistake is for people in the “coach” role to lead their “client” into positive statements prematurely, instead of continuing to mirror the client’s negative material. Gently correct for this if you see it happening.
Another common mistake is for people to fail the follow the directions to pick a specific incident to tap on. While EFT can be used for absolutely anything, it can take more skill to use it for behavioral and attitudinal changes. In order to have a successful learning experience, it is most helpful to have people start with basics by learning to use EFT with a specific event from the past. Sometimes you can help the “coach” guide the “client” to a specific incident. Other times, the client has a pressing fear or worry in their current life that is too pressing to set aside for the sake of the exercise. If so, it’s fine to work on that. But steer people away from something too global like “my life is out of control” or “my low self esteem.”
If someone isn’t feeling any benefits from the EFT process, you can have them try a few simple interventions: drink a glass of water, try the 9 gamut, switch from karate chop to sore spot, see if SUDS is staying the same while “aspects” are changing, see if you can help identify more specific elements of the issue.
Whenever more help seems to be needed, please ask the Trainer!