I have been successfully using EFT on my own personal issues ever since I had testicular cancer at the tender age of 35. I have been successful in applying emotional freedom techniques for all the after-effects and unwanted thoughts that are associated with cancer and eliminating any troublesome thoughts that would reoccur.
I have had a meditation practice and I have been a yoga practitioner, I felt it was time to give up alcohol because it was not integrating well into my new healthy lifestyle. I exercise daily and trying to get into the lotus position with a hangover was not the easiest thing to do at 6:00 a.m.
I would not say that I am an alcoholic. I drink maybe a glass of wine, or beer a day, with a bit more for social drinking at parties and get-togethers. I have never been sick drunk, yet I held this fear that I couldn’t stop drinking. My first drink was at the age of 13 and I mixed white wine and red wine at a party. The person who gave me the alcohol was my father. He is an alcoholic and drinks a bottle of alcohol a day.
I had several attempts at eliminating alcohol from my life, without success, until I tried applying emotional freedom techniques.
First, I tried tapping:
“Even though I feel awful after drinking, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though drinking reduces my capacity to be a good husband and father, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I feel that it’s my dad’s fault that I started drinking in the first place, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I adore the taste of a cool beer, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I adore the taste of a chilled glass of white wine, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
None of these seemed to work. I then thought about the fact that I drank for social reasons and the desire to fit in. Maybe I needed to tap on that.
“Even though I think that I will feel like an outcast if I don’t drink, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I think that I will have no friends if I don’t drink, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
After working these two tapping statements at every occasion where alcohol was being served, I would ask myself: “Am I able to refuse this drink?”
Even though I was tapping, I still found that I would still give in and have a glass of wine or a beer. Then I would be once again frustrated at my lack of being able to give up this habit and fully embrace a healthy lifestyle.
My breakthrough finally came one evening when I found myself thinking about getting a beer while walking from my office to the train home.
I started tapping:
“Even though tapping feels like it is absolutely useless for these desires, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Strangely enough, this gave me comfort to believe that maybe tapping wouldn’t work on my need to stop drinking. I saw how I could always blame tapping for the failure if I wanted, and then accepted, a drink. Needless to say, this time I didn’t stop for a beer before my train ride home.
My final epiphany came some days later, when I was doing something unrelated. I had this vision of what I had always wanted alcohol to achieve for me, for example being able to sit down with my wife, on the sofa, in front of the fire with a cold glass of white wine, just chilling out and relaxing together.
But it had NEVER EVER happened that way.
I started to tap:
“Even though I have never been able to achieve the dream state I desire with using alcohol, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
And that was it! The desire evaporated. I kept pinching myself as I kept tapping:
“Even though I can’t believe I will never drink alcohol again, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
I spent so much time concentrating on the negatives and the side issues of alcohol, I didn’t realize that it was the image of what alcohol was supposed to bring into my lfe that was the key to my cravings all along.
I have not had a drink since, nor the desire. I take each day as it comes now, but without the fear or the anxiety that I can’t live a completely healthy life.