This tapping success story by EFT practitioner, Leon Jay, illustrates how emotional issues often underlie physical ailments, even those that seem purely “mechanical,” like poor circulation in a person of advanced years. Tapping on the physical symptoms often helps, but if there is an underlying issue, as there was in this case, full resolution required clearing the emotional issue.
By Leon Jay
Jan had been suffering from cold feet and hands for many years and nothing, not even a heater, seemed to help. She was an elderly woman who was told that this was a natural part of aging, but she wouldn’t accept this conclusion so she looked for an alternative resolution.
I started our tapping session by asking which was worse: the cold hands or cold feet. It turned out that the coldness in her feet was a 9 on the 0-10 SUD Level intensity scale.
We began tapping:
“Even though I have cold feet, I deeply and completely accept myself.” and
“Even though my feet are numb, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
After two or three rounds, she stabilized at a SUD Level of 5. This was an improvement, of course, but we could not get below that.
I then asked her how she felt emotionally when she paid attention to her feet. She was unsure why, but she felt anger. I asked her what this anger reminded her of, or if she had felt it before. She suddenly had a look of shock on her face. She recalled being 4-years-old and finding out that her father had hung himself. Because of the era in which she grew up, she had to be taken from home so her mother could recuperate. And also because her mother no longer had the financial means to support a child.
The anger came from the rejection she experienced from this event and the lack of understanding her 4-year-old self had about the situation.
A couple of tapping rounds later this feeling finally cleared. After working through more emotional layers on this past childhood trauma, another insight came to her giving more clarity to her current physical situation.
“Even though I’m angry at not being wanted, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I must be a bad girl who nobody loves to be sent away, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though mother doesn’t love me any more, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
She’d spent her life since that event trying to please others so they would love her and not reject her. Even in her advanced age, she was unwilling to take time for herself, time she most desperately needed.
It took a few rounds of EFT working on clearing her blocks to supporting herself first before others before she felt lighter than she had felt in years. Her circulation improved and warmth returned to both her hands and feet. Her SUD Level had gone down to a 1, which cleared completely when warmed near a heater.
She was amazed at how quickly her underlying emotional issue surfaced, and how she felt about them after tapping. She now looks forward to her final years, being more relaxed, and is happy to put herself first more often.