By Nancy A. Morris
I know money is tight for a lot of people and I have found that EFT sessions can be so much more productive if a client is fully prepared. Much more can be accomplished on very specific issues with some forethought. This article is for anyone who wants the most “bang for their buck” when it comes to EFT sessions.
Prior to an EFT phone consultation I always send clients the following list of things they can do to get the most out of our sessions:
Prior to our phone appointment, prepare yourself and your surroundings:
- Have water nearby in case you get thirsty.
- Make sure you have privacy and will not be disturbed by children, pets, etc.
- Shut off telephone ringers/answering machines (for quiet).
- Shut off & set your cell phone aside (electrical signals aren’t good). If you must use a cell phone, use the ear bud and keep the phone off your body.
- Shut off your computer (or move a good distance away from it).
- Remove your watch and any jewelry that may get in the way.
- Have paper and pen handy to jot down homework notes (if you want this).
- If you have a land line it is best to use that with the speakerphone.
Prior to calling me for our session, take a few minutes to center yourself and clarify your intention to spend this time attending only to yourself, free from all other distractions. Your awareness of your feelings and thoughts and your willingness to speak up about whatever comes up for you will give us the best possible results from our session. Our session is completely confidential.
AN EXAMPLE: While working with a client recently, I realized that the way she came to our phone consultations prepared with her issues allowed us to make much better use of our time (and her money) to get results for her and quickly as possible. It became clear that she did some deep introspection prior to our first session. She had done EFT on herself regarding these issues and already knew from her own experience where she’d run into stumbling blocks.
At our initial phone consultation, her stated desire was to “improve her sex life”. That’s a very general statement and we could’ve spent quite a while getting to tappable issues in our first session. But, she had thought about this and already knew that she felt like she “had a brick wall” around her and that she “didn’t feel feminine or attractive”. We worked on these areas in the first session until she felt quite good about them. She wanted tapping homework, so we agreed on Even though I’ve had a brick wall around me… and then added a Choice statement of I choose to feel beautiful and sexy. She loved this phrase.
Here are the relevant points:
Arrive at your appointment as fully prepared as you know how to be by:
- Writing (or thinking) about your “issue” ahead of time. Ask yourself: What am I afraid of? What holds me back? When did this start? What do I think is the cause of my feeling this way? Can I think of a particular situation or event that might have contributed to me feeling this way?
- Ask for homework phrases and DO THEM. Then, as you do the homework tapping, write down (so you’ll remember, they tend to slip away) the negative thoughts that come up. All the reasons WHY this can’t work for you.
- Also, as you do the EFT homework, write down any specific events that pop into your mind. Trust this process, even if the event seems to be unrelated.
- At your next appointment prepared with this information so that you and your EFT practitioner can get right into it.
FOR EXAMPLE: At her next appointment one week later, when I asked how the homework went, she admitted that she’d tried doing it, but could not feel “beautiful and sexy” and actually felt disgusting and shameful. She’d thought a lot about it and realized that sexual abuse which occurred when she was 8 years old still kept her feeling this way. It was so hard for her to think about and talk about; she’d been hoping to be able to skim over it.
But, because of her homework attempts and her courage, within 5 minutes of getting on the phone we were working on this important and long-standing core issue. And we were able to clear it.
In Summary: You can use EFT sessions as “talk therapy session” with EFT tapping on issues as they arise; there is nothing at all wrong with this approach. But, if you are short on cash and want to make the most of every session, or if you simply want to get to the “meat of the matter” as quickly as possible, you can:
Prepare yourself before your first session,
- Ask for homework phrases,
- Do the EFT homework,
- Track where you get stuck and report these specifics to your EFT practitioner.
I hope this has been helpful and gets you the results you want.
With love and respect, Nancy Morris, EFT-ADV