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Forgiveness of Several People with Continuous Tapping

Forgiveness of Several People with Continuous Tapping

Dear EFT Community,

Here Brian Moore describes his “Rolling EFT Process” in which he taps continuously for whatever memories and emotional issues arise.

-Dawson Church

By Brian V. Moore

I recently woke up at about 4 a.m., and suddenly a very old and small guilt incident arrived in my thoughts. I decided to do EFT and my thoughts began switching to other past happenings that I felt guilty about.

I started the EFT process with Even though I feel guilty about many things, I completely and deeply Love, Accept and Forgive myself, three times whilst tapping on my KC point.

In a rolling EFT process I stated “This guilt,” as I tapped. Whilst continuing to tap, I allowed all images, feelings, and statements of guilt to continuously enter my thoughts. As each one disappeared, from my “relevance,” a new one would appear. I kept on tapping until no more thoughts appeared.

I continuously tapped the following points: Eyebrow, Side of eye, Under Eye, Under Nose, Chin, Collarbone, Under the Arm, Top of Head, Inner wrists, and back again. The process took me about a half an hour.

Some very interesting “guilt” arose, from when I was 6 years old and had taken far more than my share of the fresh milk.

I then easily fell asleep and awoke the next morning looking and feeling 10 years younger.

My mom who just turned 80 has been looking more and more faded of late. The EFT for her knee had worked wonders and she is physically very well. I asked her if she would like to try the rolling EFT process for guilt.

She loves EFT and quickly agreed. I explained to her that she did not have to tell me anything about the issues and explained the process. We began with the same process. Upon completion I asked her how she felt.

She told me that she had handled many issues, but there was one big one, which she could not share with me. She looked uneasy and it had taken a lot of courage to even mention it.

I said, “That is perfect, Mom. Can we give it a number or a name?  For example can we call it the “No. 1 guilt?” Again she agreed and I asked her for an intensity level on a scale of 0 to 10. It was high at 10.

We then tapped three times on the KC point: Even though I have this huge number one guilt that I cannot share, I completely and deeply Love, Accept and Forgive myself and anyone else that may have caused this guilt.

Then we rolled down through the sequence, tapping and saying “This No. 1 guilt.

We checked after about three or four minutes. “How are you feeling now, Mom,” I asked. “Much better, about a 3 (out of 10), I think.” We tapped for the remaining No. 1 guilt and I again asked how she was feeling.

She told me that the guilt was gone but a sadness remained, at about a level of 3. We tapped for the sadness. And it, too, moved on.

My mom again looks and acts so many years younger. Her memory is improving–perhaps the guilt was one of the blocks to remembering. And when sitting next to her much younger sister-in-law, she looks the younger of the two!

Rolling Forgiveness Process

I then had a telephone session with a friend from another province in South Africa. I suggested to her that we do the rolling guilt, as an identifier of the emotions behind her physical challenges. She told me that she had done a lot of work on her own guilt and together we worked out that forgiving others in the same rolling EFT process may have benefit.

We began with Even though there are many people that I have yet to forgive, I completely love and accept myself and forgive them.

She is a more audio-kinesthetic person, and as we worked, she stated the names of the various people. I recorded the names as she spoke. Some of them were mentioned far more often than others. In this session she added the 9 Gamut. As she came to the end, I asked her how she was feeling, and she said, “Better, but not quite there.”

I then asked her to give me the status of her forgiveness for each person, by name. I was a bit worried, as the first four people were not yet clear. But as I went through the names, many were clear.

I then pointed out the names that appeared most often–her husband, mother, and father. “These names came up very often, are you clear with them yet?” “I am not yet clear with my husband, I am clear with my mum, but it is definitely my dad that I must work with some more.” The level of intensity was a big 10 out of 10.

She is very good at working out the perfect words to use and we settled on the formula for the opening statement and began the forgiveness process. At first I added, “I am open to forgive Dad,” and she said, “No. I am ready to forgive him.”

As her tears began to flow, I spoke on her behalf, using the formula that she had chosen. And she tapped for “Not yet forgiven Dad.”

After a few rounds, there was an audible sigh, and she said, “This was the big one. I have completely forgiven Dad.” We checked for more aspects and worked a bit with “sadness.” And then I went back to the names on the list.  “Have you forgiven A, B, C?” The answers came: “Yes. Yes. Yes.” The list was clear.

“How do you feel now?”

“So much lighter.”

I sent this article to her for approval and she said, “The reason why the rolling EFT was most effective for me, as we worked together, was because it was as if I was working with layers and was able in the end to connect with a core issue that was ‘I never had a dad in the way I needed one.’ So I found it hugely effective and it was a big release for me to make that connection.”

She still has a number of physical challenges, with an imbalanced thyroid and related physical challenges. With her permission, we will continue to work with those.

The Rolling EFT process has a number of benefits:

  • It is relatively painless.
  • It is a great way of identifying the biggest challenge when faced with a general feeling.
  • It allows the client to identify their issues in a very nonthreatening way.
  • It easily reduces long-hidden emotions.
  • It may be a wonderful addition to the Personal Peace Procedure.

It is such an honor to have been allowed to work with my mom and my new friend. We still have much work to do together. The great thing is that, although my mom relies more and more on me, my friend is doing wonderful EFT work, for herself, on her own.