Dear EFT Community,
While forgiveness may not always seem possible, EFT Practitioner and Trainer, Alan Morison, provides an alternative to forgiveness by encouraging a client to “let go” which can turn the corner of releasing old trauma.
By Alan Morison
My client “Jay” had been sexually abused as a child by her brother and, although her family knew about the situation, she had done nothing to talk it out, just buried it, thinking that was the way to deal with it; simply ignore it.
As years went on Jay relied on the company of her dog to help her as she would talk to it if she needed to express her feelings. She was devastated when the dog died, however, as she felt she had killed it herself because it had to be put down.
She stopped sexual relations with her husband, and, although he knew about her abuse, he didn’t understand what she was feeling, finally saying she would have to leave if she was going to continue withholding from him.
That huge shock to her system prompted her to begin her studies in health care as an “I’ll show them” reaction but gradually she found she could not cope with the demands on her as her emotional system became more and more under strain.
When she came to me for help we tapped on all these issues, including the behavior and death of her father. It was obvious that genuine progress was being made, but every issue (including every aspect) refused to zero out on the SUD Level of Intensity scale, hovering around a 1 or maybe a 2.
It became clear to me that she was in fact holding on to these issues.
Even though I have this fear of letting go and I don’t know how I’ll feel afterwards, I deeply and completly accept myself.
That produced positive results, but no SUD Level of zero. I then asked her if this fear was producing a ‘gap’ within her. She affirmed, astonished that I knew, rubbing her upper abdomen>
We then tapped:
Even though I have this gap, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This made her feel a lot happier. Still no zero on the SUD scale, although now no fear of letting go, but close.
I then asked her if she felt she could let go of her issues and she shook her head no.
The next round of tapping, we tapped:
Even though I can’t let go, I deeply and completely accept myself.
This was the trigger. As soon as we had got to the Under Arm tapping point she released everything that had steadfastly stuck at a SUD Level of 1 or 2. She could not believe how amazing she felt (I got a huge hug as a result). On testing she looked back at all the events and did not feel any of them affected her any more.
And she then said “And I forgive my brother as well.”
Forgiving may be hard to do, but letting go may well be the key to making it that bit easier.