By Hazel Rogers
I’ve started a business doing workshops on EFT and am starting a newsletter. I do project management training part-time, but want to do more EFT. I’m loving it. Here’s an article I’m putting in my first newsletter, about the 7 Whys. It’s a quality tool used in IT (computing) and it’s absolutely transferable to EFT. I have been using iot myself. I thought I’d share it with you.
The 7 whys is a technique that I believe was developed as part of the Toyota factory quality push, back in the mists of time. It’s since been taken from the manufacturing paradigm and used in IT quality theories. It’s a great method for getting to the root cause or at least one of the root causes of any problem. So it’s a great tool to use with EFT!
What is it?
Start with a problem. Keep asking “why?” until you’ve gotten to where you can’t go any further, or you’ve found some interesting “hidden” thinking! You don’t have to ask why seven times precisely.
Q Why do I procrastinate?
Because I’m stuck on using the tools I have here (on the computer).
Q Why am I stuck, when there are people available to help me?
Because I haven’t asked for help.
Q Why haven’t I asked for help?
Because they will think I’m stupid, I should be able to figure it out.
Now at this point, we can go a few ways… We can ask:
Q Why am I worried what they think? or
Q Why would they think I’m stupid? or
Q Why should I be able to figure this out? (I’ll use this one to continue the example.)
Q Why should I be able to figure this out?
Because I expect that I can figure out any computer application. If I can’t figure it out, maybe I’m not as smart as I think I am.
Q Why would it be bad if I’m not as smart as I think I am?
Because it’s part of my identity to be smart. I would judge myself harshly if I thought I was stupid.
Q Why would I judge myself harshly for being stupid?
Now I can tap on each of those answers as I go through or wait until I get to the pay dirt, so at this point I would tap on:
Even though I judge myself harshly for being stupid, I love and accept myself completely.
If I had negative experiences that I could remember (where it was bad if I was stupid), I’d obviously tap on those. But in this instance I don’t.
I’ve gone from procrastination to an identity issue of having to be smart. I could tap on that too, and most of the answers along the way. Each time I could see what pops up and tap on that as well.
If you’re having problems getting answers to the questions along the way, try tapping on not knowing the answer:
Even though I don’t know why I judge myself harshly for being stupid, I love and accept myself completely anyway.
If there’s more than one question from the answers, explore all the possible questions! They’ll probably all give you useful tapping points.
It’s useful to note, though, that when you start asking questions about why other people think things, your answers may not be right. But whatever you think the answer is, it’s always worth tapping on anyway.
You may not be able to change the other person, but by tapping, you may change your expectations of them. In changing your expectations, you will give them room to behave differently next time. Worth bearing in mind…