Dear EFT Community,
Master EFT Practitioner Jan Luther offers her EFT expertise on tapping statements to use for coping with grief and help the healing process begin.
– EFT Universe
By Jan Luther, Master EFT Practitioner
One of the greatest challenges in life is the ability to process grief. Emotions like sorrow and bereavement are tough to tap on, because they can feel never-ending, like a bottomless pit. Whether you are grieving the death of a loved one, experiencing anticipatory grief over someone slowly dying, or sudden news that you have a terminal illness, once the sadness sets in, it can be difficult to rise above your grief.
Tapping on acute grief can be like standing too close to a large fire. Tapping on the pain you are feeling can be intense, almost “too hot” to be exposed to for very long. It intensifies the pain until you feel you cannot bare the sorrow any longer and have to move away from it. But if you keep moving away from the pain, your grieving gets stuck and healing is postponed.
Tapping is important for processing grief because the more you tap, the more you are able to feel these intense sad emotions, acknowledge them and begin a process towards healing. Tapping can bring you hope. It can become your life-line that pulls you out of your pit of despair. Give tapping a chance to sit with your grief.
Write down the most painful moments, assign them an intensity level from 0 – 10, and begin tapping on them. Be sure to tap on your setup phrase until your level of intensity is at 2 or below before you even look at next grieving statement.
14 Grief Setup Statements:
1. Even though I can still see the life leaving him/her, I deeply and completely accept myself.
2. Even though I cannot make it stop and I am powerless to help him/her, I deeply and completely accept myself.
3. Even though it is not my place to make this ‘not happen’, I deeply and completely accept myself.
4. Even though I see his/her eyes, I deeply and completely accept myself.
5. Even though I want to remember life in those eyes, I deeply and completely accept myself.
6. Even though I remember hearing (or seeing, or saying), I deeply and completely accept myself.(whatever sounds/visions/things you may have said that still haunt you)
7. Even though I may have been so panicked, I deeply and completely accept myself.
8. Even though it happened, it’s over, he/she is at peace now, and I deeply and completely accept myself.
9. Even though I am so glad I was there and he/she was not alone, he/she knows I love him/her. I was there, and I deeply and completely accept myself.
10. Even though some part of me can see the good in this. I may still be angry and fearful, I deeply and completely accept myself.
11. Even though it is okay to feel even the negative feelings, I deeply and completely accept myself.(tap for each one that you can think of)
12. Even though I don’t know what to do next. One day at a time. I will figure it out as I go, as I deeply and completely accept myself.
13. Even though I never imagined I would have this challenge, I have managed challenges before. That is how I learn and grow even when I don’t want to, as I deeply and completely accept myself.
14. Even though I feel [name feeling] I deeply and completely accept myself even with this feeling of [name feeling] This feeling is allowed, I love this feeling it is real for me, I am going to be okay.
“Let me come in when you are weeping, friend, and let me take your hand. I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.” —Grace Noll Crowell