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Dramatic, life-changing breakthroughs often occur when EFT practitioners ask the right questions.

As an EFT Universe Trainer, I teach my students valuable questions to ask their clients.

In a recent EFT Level 1 workshop, a student released 25 years of back pain in less than 20 minutes by answering one simple question to help find the emotional cause behind the pain.

The question: “What was going on in your life when the pain began?”

In that workshop, Susan and I were paired up to practice techniques for using EFT for physical issues such as pain I was the practitioner and Susan as the client Before we began our work together I noticed that Susan was sitting tentatively on the very edge of her chair.

When I invited her to sit back and get comfortable she explained that she had not been able to sit without low back pain for the past 25 years.

Though it was not the physical issue she was planning for us to work on because it seemed so huge, I suggested we jump in and see what we could do. When we started her pain intensity was a 67 out of 10, just as it is during most waking moments of her life.

Susan described that she had been medically evaluated on many occasions but the doctors were unable to find the cause of the pain or a successful treatment to relieve it. She said her son thought it sounded a lot like sciatica. When I asked her how old her son is, she said 25.

Then I asked if her pain began before or after her son was born. Susan looked puzzled at first and then as if a light went off she realized for the first time the possible link between what went on in her life while pregnant with him and her 25 years of pain.

Then, of course, I asked her: “What was going on in your life when the pain began?”

She explained that when she was three months pregnant she was working in customer service for an airline at the airport. When faced with picking up a very large suitcase she looked around for a coworker to help her but since there was nobody nearby she lifted the heavy bag herself. Susan immediately realized that she should not have done that and the ensuing pain ultimately caused her to lose her job.

While telling the story she immediately began to feel anger at the airlines.

Twenty-five years after her claim for compensation for medical care and lost wages was denied, Susan was still filled with rage. She also felt anger at herself for lifting the suitcase against her better judgment.

Since the intensity of her anger at the airlines at 10 was more intense than the anger at herself at 7 we began using the basic EFT recipe to tap about the anger at the airlines. I used Susan’s exact words as we tapped on the feelings of anger and betrayal at losing all that pay, being unfairly judged, etc.

It took only five minutes to collapse all of her negative feelings about the airlines.

Then Susan became much more aware of her anger at herself, now an intensity level of 9. Again, using her own words, we tapped about the self blame that Susan was still feeling regarding lifting the suitcase. “I was foolish. I brought this on myself,” etc. It took only a few minutes to reach the point of forgiving herself and feeling peace.

Once the intensity was gone for the anger at the airlines and at herself Susan began to notice that her back pain was almost entirely gone. Over the next several hours, the pain totally disappeared and has remained gone for the first time in 25 years.

The most frequent question my students and clients ask me is: “What is the right thing to tap on to get the most effective EFT results?”

Knowing the right questions to ask, like in Susan’s case, is the best advice I can give. Receiving skilled instruction in the EFT foundational concepts, combined with supervised practical experience, is the most powerful way I know to learn those questions and many other valuable tools to becoming highly effective at using EFT.

Dale Paula Teplitz has been an EFT instructor since 2000 and a skilled practitioner for over 20 years. Trained by the EFT Universe founder, Dr. Dawson Church, and a recipient of his official EFT Certification, Dale assisted the Dawson in his workshops for ‘Mastering EFT’ and ‘EFT for Serious Illnesses’ and in the creation of practitioner trainings. She is featured in the documentary Operation Emotional Freedom, which describes the use of EFT with combat veterans for their war traumas.

EFT is a remarkable transformational tool–with a dark and light side. Like the Force in the movie Star Wars, it’s powerful, but can be used for good or ill. In the movie, some Jedi knights master the Force, but are then seduced by the Dark Side. All their power is then harnessed in the service of the Evil Empire. The same phenomenon often occurs in EFT.

Learning and using EFT provides no guarantee that you will remain on the Light Side of the Force. In fact, experiencing EFT’s power makes it likely that you will be tempted by the Dark Side.

There are two sources of this temptation. One comes from the outside, the other from within.

The outer temptation comes in the form of success with clients. Imagine a mildly successful life coach or psychotherapist. Or perhaps even a quite unsuccessful and frustrated life coach or psychotherapist. They learn EFT, and suddenly their clients are obtaining breakthrough results. Their ego says, “Wow, now I’m a super-therapist, a super-coach. Look at me! Look at the power I have to help people.” The ego attributes their newfound results to itself as much as to EFT. Clients are grateful to the newly-successful practitioner, further feeding the ego. It swells up to a gigantic size. Perhaps the practitioner introduces some minor variation of EFT. The ego then says, “Look, I’ve improved EFT. My EFT is even better than the original EFT.” It swells up even bigger.

The second way in which EFT can produce a monster comes from within, as EFT clears emotional trauma. Most people have a large collection of emotional problems cluttering up their psyche. The poet Robert Bly likens it to a big bag, which we drag along behind us. We can’t make fast progress through our lives because we’re impeded by dragging this bag behind us. The bag impairs our effectiveness and happiness.

EFT is very effective at clearing emotional trauma. Research shows that in just a one-day workshop, psychological problems like anxiety and depression are reduced by an average of 45%. Physical pain is reduced by an average of 68%. The results hold over time. EFT makes your bag of sorrows much smaller and lighter. All the space in the mind, body and emotional realm that was previously stuffed with emotional trauma is now open. This creates a vacuum, and that vacuum must be filled.

What rushes into this newly-liberated psychic territory? If an individual has done diligent transformational, ethical, and spiritual work, then those qualities fill the space. If an individual has not done such work, then the ego rushes in to fill the vacuum.

Keeping the ego in check has been one of the primary focuses of transformational and spiritual schools since the days of the ancient shamans. They recognized the lure of the Dark Side of the Force. They recognized that, with increased personal power comes increased responsibility to keep the ego in check. As Voltaire said, “Power corrupts.” The shamans recognized that it takes constant vigilance and committed spiritual practice to keep the psyche clear of the Dark Side. They called this practice of identifying and cleansing the influences of the ego, “cleaning the bone.”

Sometimes people in the EFT community point to the actions of this or that EFT practitioner who is drugged by power, dominated by the ego, and acting outrageously. They ask, “How can he or she do that, it goes against all the values of healing and compassion?” The reason is that such a person has fallen under the spell of the ego, going over to the Dark Side. Such a practitioner is still getting excellent results with clients, and there may be no obvious signal to them that they’ve strayed from the path.

The more power you accumulate, the greater the temptation. Historians studying transformational schools are often dismayed at the behavior of their leaders. The history of transformational movements is littered with examples of leaders who’ve become drunk with power, seduced by the Dark Side, and committed shameful acts. EFT is no exception.

As part of our certification requirements at EFT Universe, we require practitioner candidates to document 15 hours of personal work on their own issues. Why do we do this? The purpose of this requirement is to highlight the importance of “cleaning the bone.” A practitioner who gets in the habit of soul-searching, of comparing their thoughts and behaviors to the highest standards, of ongoing and diligent spiritual practice, is less likely to fall into the trap of the ego.

Fifteen hours of personal growth work is very little. It simply points to the importance of a regular practice. As you move forward on your journey with EFT, it’s important to keep examining your words, thoughts, and actions. Are they consistent with the highest values? The Dark Side will beckon, but as you commit yourself to regular personal reflection, and a strong spiritual practice, you reinforce your allegiance to the Light Side of the Force.